Really I am just sick of it. Really at two? Parker has had a terrible time of listening and doing what he is asked. I understand that he is two, but seriously.
I guess I always blew it off before. I always thought that he was kind of a miracle anyway since it took us four years to have him, so I kind of let things go.
I guess I always knew it was a problem, but didn't really realize what it had spiraled into until we went out west. We had a wonderful time by the way:)
He did not listen to any..one! Especially me. It was so frustrating. He has a mind of his own and knows how to get things that he wants.
So, last night I told myself that tomorrow I would hold a firmer hand to Parker. Taking things away if he did not cooperate.
It is hard. I remember a talk I heard at conference yesterday. The man talking related a story about his grandson. His Grandson loved to ski and he was going to enter in some kind of competition. He sat down with his parents. If he sustained a certain GPA then he could compete, but if he failed then he would not be able to attend this event that was so important to him. In the end he did not meet the agreed GPA and he was not able to attend the meet.
He talked about how proud he was of the parents for sticking to their word. And that it was harder on them than it was for their son.
It is hard for me.
I want him to have everything...including palm trees in his yard. But I realized that I needed to do something about this problem.
So, today is day one. We were headed out to the store.....and to get him a donut. He went to the bathroom and I asked him to pick up his pants and hand them to me and he refused. "You do it mommy." At this point I would just do it, but thought that this was something that he could do by himself. I asked two more times. Both times he refused to do what I asked. So, I picked up his clothes, put them on and told him he was not able to get a donut today. He cried. I wanted to run to the store and buy his a dozen chocolate donuts.
On the way to the store he asked for some cookies. I told him if he was a good listener he could have some.....he knew exactly what I was talking about. "No donut for Parker.....he's not listening." Yeah!
Before I put the car into drive he reached over and opened the door. I explained why that was not a good idea. At the stoplight he did the same thing. While we were driving. We were on a side road so I was able to pull over. I told him no cookies. Then I found the saftey lock.
I now have the urge to make him a dozen cookies....and he is totally over it.
I think it will get better soon......wish me luck!
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I hear ya sister - I have one of those guys at my house :) Too smart for his own good. I think Heavenly Father is sending them that way right now so they can be strong when times are tough, but it makes it hard on the moms. Hee, hee Anyway I was watching a 20/20 special and was really impressed with the Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child. I checked it out from the library and I'm going to read it soon!
Good job! It is so true that it is so hard on the parents! Kids will fuss for a bit, but as a parent, it is so hard. Because you want to give them everything, because children are so precious! But you are helping them so much in their lives. Think of how much better missionary he will be. He will be a better husband and father!
Be firm, but loving!
Oh, you go girl!! You can do it! My mom always told me that some parents just don't realize that parenting is HARD WORK! Intervention at 2 is so much better than at 12!! You're brave and remember that the solution to lots of parenting woes is on your knees!
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